Autobiographical+Incident

Anthony Diaz Significant Life Moment Essay - Final Draft English 9H We all knew it had been coming. In fact, the date was marked on the calendar. They’ve had it planned for over two years now. To be honest, I was looking forward to it. That defining moment meant that all the arguments and trial separations served some sort of odd purpose. When everything was finally official… nobody was ready for my parent’s divorce. For this particular essay, I could’ve written about many different situations. However, I chose this one day, one particular moment, for a reason. In retrospect, at the time I had no clue how much impact that day would have on me for the rest of my life. Not only did the obvious things about my life change, like where I lived. But, how I viewed the world and relationships in general. I never had given much thought to what would happen after we left the courthouse. We had already been in a different home, without my father. I knew in the fall I’d be attending a totally different public school. Even with all the completely visual facts laid out in front of me, I was confused to the point of no return. I had known no other life besides the one before my parents split. My parents weren’t the average case of marriage and then divorce. There was a series of reconciliations then, eventually, they’d separate again. It was almost like clockwork; every three years my parents would run into financial issues which would cause fights between them. Then my father would move out for a month or so. After that, he’d get sick of whatever girlfriend he had found, so he would come home and stability would be regained again. No matter how many times they would argue or even live apart for a little while, I always kept the faith that my dad would once again return and the family’s “status queue” became the same all over again. March 17, 2007 was the last day of my parents being man and wife. The literal concept of marriage is complex and leads into the fixations of the heart and soul, which, no one person could truly define or deduct. After they walked out of the courtroom, the feeling was profound and clear that my parents were different people. The divorce didn’t just change them, but my sisters and me as well. “Divorce is the worse on the kids.” That is one of the most truthful quotes and whoever coined that phrase must have said it with experience. Even though I am only 15, I think about how my life will turn out in regards to relationships and career choices. Now, I am somewhat reluctant to date girls because of the way that I grew up… with my father being my role model. I don’t want to be the reason for a woman’s sadness or lonesome. My father might not have been the one to show and teach me the right way to do things. Instead he was proof of what would happen if I mistreat my wife or take her for granted.